The Connection Theory
A little (almost) philosophy; hope nobody minds.
Heres the thing. How many of us have connected? And by connected I mean, you know, been with people who are on the same wavelength. Its like when you sit down next to that person, the thoughts coming out of your head just seem to entangle themselves perfectly with those of your connecting mate. And by connection I don't mean a one-sided conversation, the one where one does the talking and the other listens, but a mutual talk and an enjoyable listen. A talk where you don't have to think twice to shoot your mouth. A meeting of the minds which stops time.
A great example of the connection could be seen in the movie "Before Sunset" which focuses on a couple of friends who meet after a long gap and just connect. The entire 2 hour movie is about them just talking with each other. And its a brilliant movie. Makes one appreciate the sometimes-forgotten essential part of life - bliss.
Another movie echoing this magic is "Lost in Translation" which features an almost-forgotten movie star and an alienated wife drawn together and finding comfort in each other. Against the expected movie stereotype of man meets woman, the friendship is denied the chance to bloom into romance, and yet their fleeting time together makes a strong impression on both characters. Again, a brilliant movie!
This whole connection theory was eating my head so I ventured out and asked a couple of friends what is it that they would like - a soul mate they could connect with or a hot-and-sexy person of the opposite sex who you could lust after your entire life. Everyone goes for the connection. Obviously. Lust wouldn't be expected to last a lifetime; but when you have your connection, eternity takes a new meaning altogether.
So heres the thing - the original question - how many of us have connected? How many of us have found that person who we would love to be marooned on a deserted island for weeks to no end, with nothing to do but just catch up with each other (assuming that theres a big carton of food supplies somewhere there)? What if that person is of the opposite gender?
And if that connection hasn't been found yet, does one wait? If so for how long?
And perhaps, the most ironical part of the whole deal is - what if one does find that connection; of the opposite gender - but - for some reasons things don't work out - because they can't! Then what? Does one wait for a new connection to appear, knowing very well the minute chances of that ever happening? And does that connection become a threshold for judging future relationships/friendships? Should it?
The human mind works in mysterious ways. Sometimes, we try to find something which may not even exist - an epitome of perfection - and sometimes, when we do manage to find it - that too when we may not even be looking for it - we are unable to hold on to it - be it for reasons such as insecutrity, physical separation, ego, or that-all-time-favourite-enemy-of-man mortality. Perhaps the long sought-after purpose of life was intended to be as simple (or as complex) as - to be able to connect. Perhaps.
A great example of the connection could be seen in the movie "Before Sunset" which focuses on a couple of friends who meet after a long gap and just connect. The entire 2 hour movie is about them just talking with each other. And its a brilliant movie. Makes one appreciate the sometimes-forgotten essential part of life - bliss.
Another movie echoing this magic is "Lost in Translation" which features an almost-forgotten movie star and an alienated wife drawn together and finding comfort in each other. Against the expected movie stereotype of man meets woman, the friendship is denied the chance to bloom into romance, and yet their fleeting time together makes a strong impression on both characters. Again, a brilliant movie!
This whole connection theory was eating my head so I ventured out and asked a couple of friends what is it that they would like - a soul mate they could connect with or a hot-and-sexy person of the opposite sex who you could lust after your entire life. Everyone goes for the connection. Obviously. Lust wouldn't be expected to last a lifetime; but when you have your connection, eternity takes a new meaning altogether.
So heres the thing - the original question - how many of us have connected? How many of us have found that person who we would love to be marooned on a deserted island for weeks to no end, with nothing to do but just catch up with each other (assuming that theres a big carton of food supplies somewhere there)? What if that person is of the opposite gender?
And if that connection hasn't been found yet, does one wait? If so for how long?
And perhaps, the most ironical part of the whole deal is - what if one does find that connection; of the opposite gender - but - for some reasons things don't work out - because they can't! Then what? Does one wait for a new connection to appear, knowing very well the minute chances of that ever happening? And does that connection become a threshold for judging future relationships/friendships? Should it?
The human mind works in mysterious ways. Sometimes, we try to find something which may not even exist - an epitome of perfection - and sometimes, when we do manage to find it - that too when we may not even be looking for it - we are unable to hold on to it - be it for reasons such as insecutrity, physical separation, ego, or that-all-time-favourite-enemy-of-man mortality. Perhaps the long sought-after purpose of life was intended to be as simple (or as complex) as - to be able to connect. Perhaps.
This entry was posted on Saturday, January 14, 2006 at 1:58 PM.
Saturday, January 14, 2006 10:22:00 PM Posted byGHB..that was intense. Bravo!
ITs better to be connected than JUST be related.
Such connections are Rare to find.
They are so perfect; that they never grow. They never grow ; so never change. Permanent for one even when we know life is so impermanent
Such connections do exist, but rare to find!!!
Sunday, January 15, 2006 11:04:00 AM Posted by
Another beautiful movie having this 'connection theory' is Il Mare, a Korean movie. Everything about it is simply brilliant ... the cast, the colours.. there was a amazing overall feel to this movie...
It has the 'Before Sunset' feel from your description... Do check it out!
K
P.S It features Jeon Ji-Hyun(from My Sassy Girl, which incidentally is another brilliant Korean movie that you shouldn't miss!)
Sunday, January 15, 2006 11:06:00 AM Posted by
And btw... since you talk about epitomes of perfection, remember that attaining perfection is a bitch... it's never good enough no matter how much you try :)
Sunday, January 15, 2006 9:35:00 PM Posted by
i am connected to someone of the opposite gender. unfortunately, i'll have to wait until he takes human birth. even now, i rather b marooned on an island with my Labrador, OSCAR, rather than with a hunk.
Monday, January 16, 2006 9:14:00 AM Posted by
Lost in translation was a good movie. I saw it w/my husband, because we both like Bill Murray, it was a diff, role for him & he did a good job. We kept waiting for them to have sex. When it didn't happen we were Both glad. A very sexy movie, that was not full of....
Reading between the lines I'm wondering if you are getting the urge for marrige or something like it?
from experiance; Lust lasts two, three years tops.Too many people mistake it for Love. We all do. Trouble in the U.S. w/so many married couples getting divorces.
Women can't enjoy lust as well as men. Society makes them feel guilty about it.
they want 'romance' this again gets mistaken for love.
American soap operas & (from what I hear) Indian movies perpetuate this 'idealism' in young people.
Be careful out there Grasshopper boy.
Wednesday, January 18, 2006 1:55:00 PM Posted by
Medusa callin GHB
new posts please!!!!!
Wednesday, January 18, 2006 10:51:00 PM Posted by
@passerby : i've found lots of connections but its so hard to hold on to them :(
@kartik : ur movie suggestions are always welcome man.
@mizfit : to each his own. :)
i always wanted to get a dog of my own but i insisted that my mom should be the one who would walk him and all and he'd be my dog just for the sake of it. and my mom refused....:(
@l>t : thanks for the advise l>t, but too late >:)
@medusa : done! :)
Monday, January 30, 2006 3:09:00 PM Posted by
haha yeah it was my msn myspace... and your welcome :) your post kindof made my day as well...
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